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  • Of Sex, Massage, Jack Layton, and Scandal

    A funny story popped up in the closing hours of the 2011 federal election.  A story of how Jack Layton was caught in a “rub and tug” massage parlour during a police raid.  Jack Layton swears that he did no wrong doing.  He was there to get a treatment by his “massage therapist” and was unaware of any illicit activity that was going on there.  The story is troubling on many fronts, but I am most offended that he kept referring to his masseuse as a “massage therapist”

    There is a bit of confusion in the general public about massage therapy.  People still can’t get past the idea that massage therapy has absolutely nothing to do with sex.  And perhaps Jack Layton’s example is one of the biggest reasons why.  Jack Layton insists that he was seeing a “massage therapist”.  The truth is that the only people in Ontario that are allowed to call themselves “massage therapists” are Registered Massage Therapists that are licensed.  This goes with the same legislation that will only allow people to call themselves physiotherapists if they are in fact licensed physiotherapists.  There is no doubt in my mind that this person was not a massage therapist, but  a sex worker.

    The Globe and Mail article, “Massaging the truth about Jack Layton” by Christie Blatchford reports the following:

    Mr. Layton has acknowledged that when the cops, looking for underage Asian hookers, returned to the Velvet Touch parlour in the city’s downtown Chinatown on Jan. 9, 1996 – their first visit was two weeks earlier and then they apparently charged a man with keeping a common bawdy house – he was indeed there.

    The NDP leader said he simply went for a massage and had no idea the place was suspect; Ms. Chow noted that her husband exercises regularly, was and is in great shape and just needed a massage, and Mr. Iler said in a written statement that Mr. Layton “had no knowledge whatsoever that the therapist’s location may have been used for illicit purposes.”A rather richer picture was provided by the officer’s reproduced notes and an interview with the Sun: Mr. Layton, ostensibly there for a shiatsu massage (which traditionally doesn’t require the removal of any clothing, let alone all of it) was lying naked on a bed; the female “therapist” dumped wet Kleenex into a garbage can upon the arrival of the police, and when Mr. Layton was asked if he’d received a sexual service and replied that he was there for shiatsu and one of the officers asked why, then, he had all his clothes off, he had no reply.

    First of all, a massage therapist will never ever let you be completely naked during a treatment.  It is against our standards of practice and code of ethics.  We would lose our license in a second if we ever did that.  You must be draped or covered during the treatment.  I repeat, YOU CANNOT BE NAKED IN A MASSAGE TREATMENT.  During treatments, the back will be uncovered if the back is being massaged, but then it will be recovered when the work on the back is complete.  As we move onto one leg, it will be uncovered while the other leg is covered, and so on.  At no point will your entire body be naked in a treatment.

    Secondly, contrary to popular belief it is in fact against our standards of practice to touch the genital area, the gluteal cleft or the breasts.  There is no confusion or leniancy  in this.  Sexual touching is strictly forbidden.  Again, any behaviour of this sort will result with a loss of license for the RMT.

    Any establishment that engages in the sale of sex should not be confused with a massage therapy clinic.  Any person that sells sexual services should never be referred to as a massage therapist or registered massage therapist.  These two worlds are vastly different.

    Massage Therapy vs. Massage Parlour

    How can you tell if you are dealing with a legitimate massage therapist?  Here are some tips to clarify if you are in fact dealing with a licensed professional rather than someone in the world’s oldest professions:

    • Ask for their license.  All RMT’s are required to carry or display proof of their registration with the College of Massage Therapists (CMTO)
    • Look them up on the CMTO website.  There is a listing of all RMTs registered with the College on the CMTO website.
    • Look for physical clues:  A professional clinic should be clean and well lit.  The massage therapist should be dressed professionally and modestly, possibly in hospital scrubs
    • Avoid suspicious looking places. A professional RMT clinic will not have the following:
      • neon signs saying “Massage”
      • dimly lit offices
      • personnel dressed in provocative clothing
    • Avoid suspicious behaviour.  An RMT will never do the following:
      • asking you to completely undress for no therapeutic reason
      • asking you to undress while they are in the room
      • inappropriate touching
      • refusal to provide proof of registration (i.d. card or wall certificate)
      • refusal to provide a receipt with registration information for insurance purposes
      • offering to provide a receipt at a later date

    If you do encounter a person that refers to themselves as a massage therapist but whose credentials you doubt, please contact the CMTO to notify them so that they may investigate.

  • Reasons to not vote Conservative

     

    More voices you won’t hear in the election campaign is a Globe and Mail Article that summarizes some important topics that have been largely ignored in this election campaign. Some important points:

    • Harper’s own people have been quickly and silently fired for DWH (disagreeing with Harper)
    • Government organisations that presented versions of the truth that were not beneficial to Harper’s cause were quietly “defunded” or denied federal funds until they ceased to exist (eg. Canadian Council of International Cooperation)
    • The end of the long form census.  It may soon be difficult to argue the need for social services without statistically accurate information.
    • Canadian Foundation for Climate and Atmospheric Sciences has been “disappeared” by a removal of all federal funds.  Again, it is hard to explain the need for environmental protection without any relevant data to support it.

     

    The Commons: The daring Mr. Harper is a McLean’s article explaining how Harper’s communications style very effectively suppresses the truth. Some important points:

    • After repeating his message that Canada is tired of its fourth election in seven years, Harper does not once mention that he was responsible for 2 of the 4 elections.
    • Harper prorogued parliament twice to avoid defeat
    • His government is the first in the history of British democracy to be found in contempt of the House of Commons

    Anyone But Harper: A Globe and Mail article as rebuttal to the Globe’s endorsement of the Conservative Party

     

    Vote Compass is a tool developed by the CBC that by asking a series of questions points you towards the political party that is closest to your views.  Even if you disagree with the answer, the questions asked will open your eyes to important issues you may not have considered

  • Volunteer Opportunity for Massage Therapists

    Mother Theresa’s Missionaries of Charity in India offers a wonderful opportunity to volunteer, share your unique skills and have a uniquely rewarding experience in an exotic land.  It has some truly unique advantages:

    1.  The Missionaries of Charity Will Let You Volunteer.  Having the inspiration to volunteer is only the beginning.  Actually getting the right to volunteer can be a long circuitous struggle.

    Many volunteer organisations or NGO’s may require:

    • Extensive volunteer experience
    • A minimum time commitment of 6 months, a year or more
    • Up front payment of “administration fees” of $1,000 or more
    • An application process that takes months to complete.
    • Very specific skill sets and certification requirements

    At the Missionaries of Charity, there is no administration fee, no application process, no minimum skill requirements, no minimum time commitments.  They only require that you want to help.  For myself, I volunteered with the Missionaries of Charity purely by chance.  Scarcely had I decided to visit Calcutta and see Mother Theresa’s Mission than I was accepted with open arms by the sisters of the mission.  In fact, the sisters bent the rules to ensure that I would be given a chance to volunteer in the short time that I had available.

     

    2.  The Missionaries of Charity will give you the chance to really put your knowledge to use.

    The training for becoming a registered massage therapist in Ontario is pretty extensive.  But there were many times in class that I questioned why I needed to know pathologies and contraindications that I believed would never present themselves in my clinic.  At the Missionaries of Charity, I treated clients with swelling due to diabetes or cardiac insufficiency, hairline fractures, stroke survivors, fractures, spinal compression and dementia.  The work seemed all the more urgent because at the time I was there, there were no other volunteers with a background in physical rehabilitation.  The professional qualified care you provide can make an imporant difference to a patient that would not receive that care otherwise.

     

    3. The Missionaries of Charity Will Not Try to Convert You

    They are a Catholic organisation, but they have volunteers from all faiths and creeds.  At the time I was there, most of the volunteers were Buddhist Japanese.

     

    4. The Missionaries of Charity Will Fit Into Your Schedule

    As there is no minimum time requirement, you are free to come and go as you please.  Volunteering with them can fit perfectly into a break between your other travels in India.  It can be as short as a day or as long as years.

     

    5.  The Missionaries of Charity is in India

    It can be the perfect opportunity to visit a fascinating exotic country.  India is a difficult country to travel, but in these difficulties you will be challenged to truly learn about yourself and your work.

  • The Mystery of Mother Theresa

    Mother Theresa passed away in 1997 almost 15 years ago but her name is still as strong as it ever was.  Her name still conjures up thoughts of her saintliness and her seemingly endless compassion.  On my recent trip to India I had the good fortune to volunteer at Mother Theresa’s Mission in Calcutta.  It was an unforgettable experience that caused me to rethink a few things.

    Mother Theresa’s Missionaries of Charity is located in Calcutta at 54A AJC Bose Rd in a small non-descript building that enters from an alleyway.   The place was quietly buzzing with activity and work.  But surprisingly, no one asked me for a donation.    In fact, in all of my visits to the mission, I was never asked once, not even hinted, for a donation.  The topic of donations was never brought up with any of the other volunteers either.  This is almost unheard of in a charitable organization that literally depends on donations to support its activities.

    My volunteer placement was at Prem Dan Hospital.   A large campus that houses 300 patients: mentally and bodily sick people, dying people who lived in the street, and victims of traffic accidents.  The volunteers gave their time generously with menial chores like mopping, washing dishes, doing laundry.  Some volunteers would help feed the needy while others would offer massage or a compassionate ear.  It was rewarding work, but I found myself feeling the limits of what I was offering.  Good intentions and a helping hand were all that we had to give, but some of these patients needed expert medical care, tests, surgery and medication to ease their suffering.  As a volunteer from a rich country like Canada it was difficult to see all these people falling through the cracks.  Surely, there was a way to provide these people with what they needed.

    I tried to meet with the head nun of Prem Dan and she was generous enough to oblige.  I tried to help the sister see the need to set up a formal, organized way of approaching tourists and volunteers for donations.  Surely, with all the extra money that could potentially be collected, more good could be done.  Medicine, professional medical attention and surgery could be delivered to those in need on a more regular basis.  I was sure my suggestion to help organize it would be met with open arms.  Imagine my surprise when she told me they were not interested in asking for donations. “The Missionaries of Charity do not ask for money”.  How is this possible?  A charity that does not ask for donations?  It sounds like an oxymoron.

    To help me understand the depth of this principle and how dearly the sisters believe in it, she recounted two stories to me:

    In the first story, an extremely wealthy man once approached Mother Theresa and offered to donate millions to her charity and set up the donation as a trust.  Mother Theresa would not be allowed to touch the principal or original investment, but the interest earned would be hers and would be enough to support most of the Missionaries of Charity budget.  He was stunned when she turned him down.  Mother Theresa refused to take the money if it could not be used immediately to do her work.  Any money that her organisation had should be used to do good.  Money in the bank was useless in her eyes.

    The second story is as follows:  One night Mother Theresa plainly told all of the sisters at her Mission that they were completely broke.  There was not even enough money to buy food for dinner that night and everyone would have to go to bed hungry.  She calmly asked everyone to pray for help that night.  Surely enough, no one complained, everyone retired to their quarters and prayed for help.  Late that night, there was a loud knock on the door.  A large Indian woman was at the doorway carrying bags of food, saying “I hate you Christians!  I do not know why I am here, but my feet brought me here!”  With that, she threw several bags of food at them and stomped away.  They did not go to bed hungry.

    This really didn’t make sense.  Mother Theresa did a lot of good, but it is a bit of a secret that she could have done more good and simply turned her back on it.  How much more could she have done if she had accepted the Millionaire’s trust fund?  Wouldn’t it be better to open more centres, shelters, and hospitals?  Wouldn’t it be better to give her patients better, cleaner, more modern facilities?  Wouldn’t all that money help ease even more suffering?

    Volunteering at one of their centres, the need for more money quickly becomes evident.  They used to have an ambulance they used to literally pick up the sick and destitute from the gutters.  When it broke down, they didn’t have enough money to fix or replace it and simply relied on taxis and volunteers to pick up people that were a few breaths away from death.  The volunteers are provided with latex gloves to do their work with the sick, but due to budgetary constraints, these gloves are sanitized, washed, and reused regularly.  There are also patients that are in desperate need of help.  One man had a broken leg that was in constant pain as the bones had never been properly set.  As it was, instead of the two pieces of leg bone being set one on top of the other, the fracture was never set ad the bones were as they had been found after the accident: beside each other.  This man was in dire need of surgery to re-break the fracture and set it properly.  Another was constantly coughing, dangerously underweight and in constant agony.  Worst of all, he was undiagnosed.  We tried to help him with care, food, a patient ear, but some testing and a subsequent regimen of medication would have been invaluable.

    Yes, money could be used for such simple concrete things as an ambulance, new, sanitary latex gloves for the volunteers, surgery and better quality food for the patients.  Money could have done these simple, essential good deeds, but it wasn’t.  Money could have ensured that at least Mother Theresa and her sisters would never go hungry while carrying out their important work.  Why would Mother Theresa turn down that money when they obviously needed it?  Why would a charity turn away money?

    The answer is that Mother Theresa’s Missionaries of Charity was not really a charity.  A charity has a specific mandate to carry out certain deeds as best as possible.  The more good deeds it does, the better the charity performs.  Mother Theresa did great things to help the poor, but her primary purpose was not to help the poor, but to pray.  When people think of praying, they think of someone on their knees with their hands joined together, eyes closed in concentration and mind reciting some well memorized lines.  But prayer can be much more varied than that.  Some Tibetan Buddhist sects make a pilgrimage to holy sites by walking two steps, dropping to their knees and then lying on their stomach, before getting back up walking two more steps and dropping to their knees again.  (imagine doing this for 50kms as they do)  In a monastery in Thailand, after I complained that the 5am meditation in the lotus position (sitting on the floor with legs crossed) was too difficult for me, tried to introduce me to walking meditation which simply required “mindful walking”.  Other devout Buddhists or Hindus make a pilgrimage by “walking” in nothing but simple thin robes and flip flops to temples at 4500m above sea level or higher.  These are all forms of prayer or worship.

    Father Helmuth at Prem Dan would often to say to me “The mystery is in your hands”.  It is more important what you do.  The things that you choose to do with your hands will change you.  Mother Theresa’s form of worship, prayer or meditation is helping the poorest of the poor.  She didn’t accept the money because it would take away from her worship.  In her eyes, she helps those people in need while making herself needy as well.  She forces herself to rely completely on God and good providence.  She knows that at any time she may not have enough money to feed herself and her sisters and as such she prays with the intensity of the poorest of the poor.  She forces herself to remain in the position where absolute faith is always absolutely necessary.  If she had taken the money and lived comfortably, would she need to believe as she did?

    Her lesson is interesting.  Anthropologists will all agree that our religions were borne out of our needs.  As science has now made most of our needs and fears almost fictitious, we find that strongly held religious beliefs are becoming rare in the west.  In other words, without the need for religion, religion wilts.  Mother Theresa ensured that she always needed God.  She was always at his mercy.  She could starve.  She could run out of money to do her work.  Her patients could suffer.  As all this happened, she refused to ever ask for money.  There was no donation box at her mission, no hand out, no pleas for help. She would rely only on prayer and faith to bring her what she needed.  And as such, she never let herself live in a world governed by trust funds, interest rates or return on investment, choosing instead to live her life with the simple faith and devotion of a child where miracles seem to happen every day.

    If you visit Mother Theresa’s Missionaries of Charity today you will find that same tiny little plain looking building run by sisters in those unforgettable blue and white saris.  And most importantly, you will never be asked for a single donation.  But you may, like I did, find yourself offering to help or make a donation for no explicable reason.

    If you are interested in finding out more about the Missionaries of Charity, visit their website.

  • Disability Insurance for Massage Therapists

    The following is a guest post from Doris Malek, who provided me with excellent customer service when I was shopping for disability insurance for massage therapists:

    In Canada, breast cancer continues to be the most common cancer in women. Although many women survive after treatment, one of the issues they suffer is the financial burden. According to a new Canadian report, 80% of women
    and their families suffered financial difficulties due to loss of income and increased debt. Imagine that you suddenly have to leave the workplace for eight to twelve months. It’s going to have an impact especially if you have a mortgage, a family and/or financial commitments.

    Cancer insurance programs can be part of a massage therapist’s disability insurance policy and are designed to ease the illness related financial burden by proving you with a tax free amount of money after diagnosis. Included with the Sun Life Critical Illness plan & Disability Insurance for Massage Therapists is a medical referral service designed to connect cancer patients and their treating physicians with world renowned specialists to confirm the right diagnosis and treatment options without having to leave your home.

    Could I setup an appointment with you for next week to further discuss the benefits of having a Massage Therapist Disability Insurance Policy?

    Kindest Regards,

    Doris Malek
    Sun Life Financial Advisor
    Living Benefits Specialist
    100-195 County Court Blvd
    Brampton, ON
    L6W 4P7

    email: Doris.Malek@sunlife.com
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